Home for the holidays! Hip Hip Hooray!!
One of the pleasures of Christmas is when family are home for holidays, when adult children return to the family home for a few days or a few hours, it can be a time to celebrate and reflect.
For some of us it is a chance to catch-up on the changes and progress of different members of the family – how much the younger ones have grown over the twelve months – who is working where and the little differences (or not) around the home where one spent time as a child or teenager in previous years.
The moment of the week for me was when I went to pick up a family member at the airport. I walked across towards the baggage carousel where the (just stepped off the plane) family member was standing patiently waiting for their luggage to arrive from the baggage handling staff – they looked my way … and … I received just a passing glance (from said family member) and then they looked away.
Oh no! Oh bother! Have I embarrassed her? Is she ashamed of me? Does my shirt have large coffee stain on the front? Am I late? Should I apologise for only being five minutes early for the flights expected time of arrive (ETA) instead of 15 minutes early?
I felt quite disregarded all of a sudden, a bit like a middle aged women at the boutique counter of the fashion department.
Not to be perturbed, I sallied forth and walked up for a smile of acknowledgement and a warm hug … and closer inspection apparently. After the initial greeting and general comments on flight, luggage and weather – the conversation moved on to more personal discussion.
“You look good, I didn’t recognise you”, she said to me, as we were walking out of the airport with the luggage!
– awkward pause –
“I am sorry, that didn’t come out quite right, have you cut your hair?” she continued with a slight apologetic tone.
… and yes I had cut my hair (about 4 inches shorter) BUT I also feel different too, dear reader. I feel different on the inside, a little healthier, a little lighter in weight, a little less mess in my life and a feeling that I am in a better financial position that I was at the beginning of the year. My clothes fit me better too and I don’t feel exhausted by everyday life. I get things done, I achieve and I am not chasing my tail all the time like I was in 2011.
So, maybe that is a good sign – to be not easily recognised by those we consider close but don’t see every week, those who know us well – maybe the old me is going (staying in the past) and the new ‘me’ is evolving!
Bring on the New (Year) and Improved (Me) I say!